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October 16, 2007

3 things I want to improve or change

Filed under: LDS,life,Mormons — by steffielynn @ 4:49 pm
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This week in church we had a lesson on self mastery.  We talked about how to overcome bad habits.  We were challenged to pick three bad habits we would like to overcome.  I wrote my three things down,  Then we were asked to choose one of those things and start this week to improve upon it.  So out of my three things I want to change, I decided to really work on my patience/anger.  I am a very impatient person, especially with my children.  I was raised in a home with a lot of screaming and yelling.  I do not want to carry that over to my children.  I’m writing about it on this blog because I feel it will be a good place to write my thoughts as I begin my journey.  I know it will be difficult, but I want to do better for myself and my kids.   In class we discussed 4 steps to help us.

1. have a goal and a plan for accomplishing that goal,  Be determined, work hard (that’s why i’m posting this to be held accountable)

2. Choose someone who is a great example of the characteristics you wish to develop.  (for me it is the example of Christ, as he tells us to be slow to anger.)

3. Ask your self how would Christ respond if He were here today, and act as He would act.  (step one and step 2…. I have a lot to live up to :))

4.  Pray to heavenly Father and ask for help in controlling your feelings and actions.

So here goes. 

And by the way, if you are reading this I extend this challenge to you……  Let me know how you do 🙂



  1. I refuse to think of you as impatient and quick to anger. If this were true, how could you put up with Elder Joseph for so long?

    Don’t worry, EJ is not offended by this, and is probably getting a good chuckle, because after all, I make a good point : )

    Comment by Bishop Rick — October 17, 2007 @ 10:30 pm |Reply

  2. Awww, your so nice 🙂 But it’s true. I have no patience, I used to be a lot worse but I still have a ways to go!

    your right though, you do make a good point 🙂 Maybe I’m getting a lot better ha ha ha


    Comment by steffielynn — October 18, 2007 @ 2:13 am |Reply

  3. I’m slow to anger actually 🙂 and I am trying to rid myself of it … I feel anger sometimes but try not to let it manifest into temper or steam !

    It seems I’ve had many more years to get good at keeping it in check , but actually I get angered these days when I read Journal Of Discourses . I actually try to laugh about them but its not possible , when I think about what those early LDS women went through under that tyrants unrighteous dominion and threats I feel anger .

    D&C 121: 37, ………..”or to exercise control or dominion or compulsion upon the souls of the children of men, in any degree of unrighteousness, behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved; and when it is withdrawn, Amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man. ”

    typical of Joseph Smith to write that and then do the total opposite himself !

    Comment by Elder Joseph — October 18, 2007 @ 3:22 pm |Reply

  4. EJ

    I really don’t understand your point of view. These women that were treated so “badly”. Did you know any of them? Did they tell you they were treated badly?

    I know these women as srong, faithful, amazing women. Not fearful and timid and weak.

    Do you realize that these women were ACTUALLY treated badly by the NON members who killed and beat and tarred and feathered their husbands in front of them AND their children. And the government, who took 500 men. And who allowed these things to happen. It was LEGAL to kill mormons, did you know that????

    These women were pushed out of their homes, watched their families die, walked across the plains. Weak they were not.

    But I do agree with you. I feel for these women too, NOT because of the men in the church, but because of the discusting hateful “men” that persecuted them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    read this it is the end of a tesitmony Mary E. Lightner gave, This was NOT a weak women!

    “[Sister Lightner stated that she had ten children; seven of them were boys and she had raised three of them to manhood. She has one daughter in the Church. Being asked concerning her husband, Sister Lightner said: “My husband did not belong to the Church. I begged him and pled with him to join but he would not. He said he did not believe in it, though he thought a great deal of Joseph. He sacrificed his property rather than testify against Joseph, Hyrum and George A. Smith. After he said this, I went forward and was sealed to Joseph for eternity.”]

    This is what SHE wanted!

    Comment by steffielynn — October 18, 2007 @ 3:37 pm |Reply

  5. stefie

    Do you know why Mormons were hated ? They threatened their neighbours wherever they went telling them they will be swept up off the land .Thanks to Joseph Smith and his made up revelations ..

    Sister Lightener was brainwashed thats why ! She was told she had to be sealed to a Mormon Priesthood holder to get back to God .But the bible doesn’t teach that .Jesus is the means back to heavenly father and not marriage to Joseph Smith..

    If your husband didn’t join the church and you say you love him , would you marry a mormon man as well just for the sake of Godhood ? joseph smith married them on earth while they had living husbands .

    If you want to know about polygamy you should read JournalOf Discourses .. and how they were threatened …

    Brigham Young
    “Monogamy, or restrictions by law to ONE WIFE, IS NO PART OF THE ECONOMY OF HEAVEN AMONG MEN. Such a system was commenced by the founders of the Roman empire….Rome became the mistress of the world, and introduced this order of monogamy wherever her sway was acknowledged. Thus this MONOGAMIC ORDER OF MARRIAGE, so esteemed by modern Christians as a HOLY SACRAMENT and DIVINE INSTITUTION, is nothing but a system established by a SET OF ROBBERS….

    George A. Smith

    Brigham Young – “Since the founding of the Roman empire monogamy has prevailed more extensively than in times previous to that. The founders of that ancient empire were robbers and women stealers, and made laws favoring monogamy in consequence of the scarcity of women among them, and hence this MONOGAMIC SYSTEM which now prevails throughout Christendom, and which had been so fruitful a source of PROSTITUTION AND WHOREDOM throughout all the Christian monogamic cities of the Old and New World, until rottenness and decay are at the root of their institutions both national and religious.”

    Speaking to a group of departing missionaries…

    “Brethren, I want you to understand that it is not to be as it has been heretofore. The brother missionaries have been in the habit of picking out the prettiest women for themselves before they get here, and bringing on the ugly ones for us; hereafter you have to bring them all here before taking any of them, and let us all have a fair shake.”
    – Apostle Heber C. Kimball, The Lion of the Lord, New York, 1969, pp.129-30.

    and again…

    “I say to those who are elected to go on missions, remember they are not your sheep: they belong to Him that sends you. Then do not make a choice of any of those sheep; do not make selections before they are brought home and put into the fold. You under stand that. Amen”
    – Apostle Heber C. Kimball, Journal of Discourses, vol. 6, p.256.

    Brigham Young Threatens Hell to the women on resisting Plural Marriage

    Brother George A. Smith has been reading a little out of the revelation concerning celestial marriage, and I want to say to my sisters that if you lift you heels against this revelation, and say that you would obliterate it, and put it out of existence if you had the power to nullify and destroy it, I say that if you imbibe that spirit and feeling, you will go to hell, just as sure as you are living women………………………….You sisters may say that plural marriage is very hard for you to bear. It is no such thing. A man or woman who would not spend his or her life in building up the kingdom of God on the earth, without a companion, and travel and preach, valise in hand, is worthy of God or his kingdom and they never will be crowned, they cannot be crowned; the sacrifice must be complete. If it is the duty of a husband to take a wife, take her. But it is not the privilege of a woman to dictate the husband, and tell who or how many he shall take, or what he shall do with them when he gets them, but it is the duty of the woman to submit cheerfully
    Brigham Young Journal Of Discourses VOL 17 page 159

    Comment by Elder Joseph — October 18, 2007 @ 3:49 pm |Reply

  6. you are getting off topic, this is about things I want to improve, this is a positive post. I will write a post specifically on polygamy so you can write all this on there! Just for YOU!

    So getting back to topic, since you read my challenge above are you going to try it?

    I’ve been working really hard and I’m giving myself a big pat on the back. Of course it’s only been a few days and I am trying to better myself for life. But I’ll just take it day by day 🙂

    Tell me what you are going to work on so I can bother you about it as much as possible 🙂

    Comment by steffielynn — October 18, 2007 @ 4:02 pm |Reply

  7. Steffie

    Maybe I need to work on being ignorant of the Mormon real belief on polygamy as it bugs me 🙂

    If your version was what the church really believed then I would JOIN AT ONCE ! 🙂

    Comment by Elder Joseph — October 18, 2007 @ 4:11 pm |Reply

  8. Are you calling me ignorant? :), i’m not though 🙂

    You are getting into complicated stuff. My faith is simple, and I trust that the Lord has led me where he wants me. I will understand all the rest when I get there.

    Comment by steffielynn — October 18, 2007 @ 4:15 pm |Reply

  9. Steffie

    you said

    “I will understand all the rest when I get there.”

    I hope you never get involved with something like what happened in the past or taken advantage of just because someone claiming to be the voice of God said it was so !!

    I prefer your ‘simple belief’ as opposed to ‘real mormonism’ as its simliar to mine 🙂

    And anyway I’m not here to agree with the church , thats the whole point …. otherwise you’ll be asking me what 3 things I like best about the church as opposed to asking what 3 things I dislike most about the church ! lol

    Comment by Elder Joseph — October 18, 2007 @ 4:59 pm |Reply

  10. Steffie,

    I really want to not be rude on blogs, especially yours, but sometimes its really hard.

    Comment by Bishop Rick — October 25, 2007 @ 3:24 pm |Reply

  11. I think you are doing a great job! 🙂

    You are not being (and have not been) rude!!!!

    When people make personal attacks THEY are being rude and they are just trying to get under your skin! People like that are just ignorant! Don’t let them get to you, (even though it can be VERY hard!)

    Comment by steffielynn — October 25, 2007 @ 3:56 pm |Reply

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